she of course used the phrase ‘gay lifestyle’ and also (before i even said anything about the lesbianism, this is just standard lunchtime chitchat for her) found ways to insult my hair (not blonde enough), my mom (insufficiently deferential to her), my weight (fat), my job (unprestigious), that my parents waited until they were 36 to have me (an insult to her personally), and that i speak spanish (anti-american)





